A few days ago, I was blessed to be able to attend an entrepreneurial event up in Denver. For those of you that know me, I absolutely love attending any event that showcases success, harnesses inspiration and ignites the fire of entrepreneurialism. On the 80 minute drive back home, I felt drawn to call several of my close friends. It was the last Saturday before Halloween, so many were busy, but one wasn’t, and we had a life changing conversation. Why is it that the best conversations happen in cars?
So before getting into the details, let me explain a few things.
About 3.5 years ago, I was first introduced to the idea that I could work from home and make an unlimited income. I had never heard of this concept before. I also had never heard of personal development before and was instantly hooked. And on top of both of those things, this idea came from a power couple that was very successful and my husband deeply respected. Plus, their business contained something I was already passionate about, so, of course, I jumped on the wagon.
I’ve later learned over the past year, that there are actually a lot of work from home opportunities that also have the ability to earn unlimited income, focus on personal development and inspiring others. When I realized this, it was the exact same shock that hit me when I first learned that several churches have the exact same beliefs. (I grew up LDS, so when you learn that several churches and spiritual philosophies believe things you thought only one place had, it’s shocking!)
So- How do you know if you are in the right business for you?
To answer this myself, I spent the last 6 months exploring all aspects of working from home. I’ve been interviewing millionaires, touring their homes, traveling to meet with the next up and coming successful network marketers, attending tons of meetings and conferences, sitting down with very successful real estate investors, watching webinar after webinar about creating 6 figure blogs, reaching out to publishers about book deals, having long evening conversations with life coaches, reading book after book and more– trying to figure out what my best business path is that will lead to my ultimate potential.
And from this 6 month experience, I’ve noticed a few things. Every single one of these opportunities told me that I would be a perfect fit for them. Which, deep down, I knew couldn’t be true.
I’m a romantic.
I’ve always known this and in choosing my husband, I knew after a few months of dating that he was my soulmate. Which to me means I knew he was the person that would take me from who I was at the time and through his love, make me a better person and lead me to become my ultimate best self. Though totally different from each other, when together, we have always been unstoppable. And that force, that tangible, magnetic energy that we have, is something that we thrive on. After 10 years in the dating world, this was the only time I felt this way and I knew it was meant to be.
How is this like choosing a business?
Well, the truth is not everything is really a perfect fit for you. If I could go back in time, I would love to have had the wisdom to tell all my prior business partners that before partnering with me, to go explore every work from home venture, do some self-reflection and know for sure that my plan was their “soulmate plan” instead of jumping to enroll them and get them started. But, don’t we love hindsight? (To be honest, I actually do-it creates wisdom)
Why is choosing a business like choosing a spouse?
Well, because your business becomes your life. Entrepreneurs work 80 hours a week to avoid working 40 hours a week at a 9-5. That is the mindset. Successful entrepreneurs mold their lives into their business and it becomes difficult to see where one ends and the other begins. You no longer do something “for a living”. What you do, is how you live. You never fully “clock out” as an entrepreneur, just like you never clock out of your marriage. (Because the moment you start doing that, your business starts to die- just like a marriage would). You have to invest a significant amount of time and money to get launched and launching can take months to a few years before you start seeing the larger rewards-which is very much like the dating-early marriage stages.
So, the bottom line with this concept is:
If you can’t connect to your business, feel that magnetic tangible energy that you know will make you a better person, chances are, you won’t stick to it through sickness and health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer or death do us part either.
But if you have the heart of an entrepreneur, your opportunity- your divine calling is out there and waiting for you.
So, back to the car conversation-
My soul sister, as we call each other, felt inspired to ask me a question that actually brought me to tears–which I quickly bit back so she wouldn’t know (or maybe she could tell the energy shift-probably).
She asked me, “If you only had a year to live, what would you do?”
OH MY GOODNESS!!!! If there was ever a question that could quickly get you back on the right track in your life, it is definitely this one.
I knew what I was going to say, but before I started speaking, she told me what she thought I would do. And magically, it was exactly what I was about to say. It’s amazing having such great friends and mentors in life that although you don’t talk everyday, or even live in the same time zone, you just know each other.
This question brought me more clarity than my 6 month journey did.
And, I’ve always felt that tears like the ones I had are an indicator that your mind and soul are communicating and in agreement.
If you knew you were going to die in 365 days, whatever you would want to do is the biggest step toward knowing your deepest priorities, life calling and purpose. You generally choose what you’ve always wanted to do, but over the years made excuses as to why life got in the way of achieving it. But when you “think” you only have a year left, your subconscious mind shifts and suddenly all your obstacles melt away leaving you free to do what really matters.
I used to think that I needed an unlimited income or money to do what I really wanted to do. But this question liberated that limiting belief. Thinking about how every new morning would bring me to 364, and 363, and 362, I no longer saw my excuses getting in the way of my path-I just saw a way to do it.
And it just so happens that what I’d choose to do with my time is a business that covers all the ingredients of my life purpose (check out that blog here), has the ability to earn unlimited income, inspires others, fulfills my truth, supports my authenticity and is most definitely my “soulmate” business plan.
So, when choosing your business, or discovering if your business is your life purpose:
1.) Know that you have options. Sometimes marrying the first person you meet works out, but I’d say for most of the population, you’ve got to do some searching.
2.) Make sure the plan fits your wants, needs and desires and you see it as your “soulmate” business.
3.) If you’re unsure if your business is your soulmate plan, ask yourself, “If I only had a year to live, would I spend my time doing this?”
What is your soulmate business plan? What would you do if you only had a year left? Comment below and share.